How Do I Talk My Daughter Out of Going Into Fashion Design

  1. Marci07

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    My girl wants to be a style designer. She has been sewing and creating clothes for the by 2 years. She has a portfolio and won a contest at school where she created a beautiful dress out of capri sun'southward packages.

    This is her passion. She spends her free fourth dimension sewing and creating pieces.

    Her dad is skeptical near it and says that at that place is no futurity in fashion blueprint and the chances of her earning a decent living are very slim. He is constantly showing her stories of people who didn't go far. He has set in his center for her to go to Thou.I.T. This was as well her goal earlier and she discovered making wearing apparel.

    She's a junior right now, taking 4 AP classes and getting very practiced grades. I am a strong believer in allowing her to pursue her dream, while making her enlightened of the challenges and coming upward with a backup plan. She's aware of the challenges and is willing to work difficult.

    She gets sad when she doesn't get the back up from her dad, since she admires him so much and withal thinks that she should follow his advice. I've talked to him before about his and was non happy when I told him that she shouldn't follow his dream but her dream. Nosotros are divorced so I don't get to talk to him that much.

    I am aware that my daughter'south passion is very difficult and I see a lot of struggles for her in the hereafter. Many times I dubiousness my conclusion almost supporting her but deep inside I believe she should get for it and I will be backside her 100%. What would yous do? Has anybody been in a similar state of affairs?

    Earlier I sit down downwards with her dad and take a serious talk about encouraging him to back up my daughter'due south dream I want to brand sure I'm making the right determination.

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    When I declared English language equally my major in college, my dad nearly had a eye attack. For 4 years, I listened to my dad argue with me about the chances of me actually getting a job with an English language caste. He was convinced I was wasting a lot of fourth dimension and money on a worthless degree - he wanted me to focus on something with job security, like nursing or teaching (ha!). He didn't support me at all in my decision, and information technology injure - but information technology didn't dissuade me from continuing.

    12 years later, the events of life got in my way. I'one thousand non an editor. I'm not a professional writer, nor have I written a volume nevertheless, although I have written a few short stories. I utilise my degree every mean solar day in the classroom - because an English degree isn't well-nigh learning classic literature - it's about critical and artistic thinking, looking exterior the printed words, and expressing yourself.

    Your girl'south dream of being a fashion designer may not work out, only that's not to say she won't be able to use her training in equally satisfying ways. My dad'due south pretty happy with the style I turned out - it'south but that he, similar your daughter's dad, is a realist. It's not a bad matter to be... and neither is following your dreams despite controversy.

  3. Aliceacc

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    How about a fashion major, along with some bookkeeping and marketing courses? Perhaps some sort of business organisation pocket-sized??

    If she's going to exist successful as a mode designer, she'll need the knowledge of how to marketplace her product and run her business.

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    I think it's of import to support her dream, merely to make certain that she knows that she will likely stop up proverb, "Do y'all want whipped foam on that?" more than than she spends time in the industry. At that place simply aren't many jobs available in that industry, and the contest is fierce, and largely driven by who you know, and unfortunately, who yous're willing to get to know much, much ameliorate than many of the states would feel comfortable with, if you get what I'm saying. I have many friends in diverse parts of the industry. They all started out wanting to work in design. 2 of them are at present buyers for major department stores, one of them is going for the third year of working unpaid as an depression-level intern for a designer, one writes a mode web log and works at Starbucks, and two are kindergarten teachers. These people graduated top of their course from a well-respected design schoolhouse, just didn't accept the connections or killer instinct to make information technology. One of the teachers sells dress on Etsy.

    Besides, please warn her that the torso epitome issues are not only with models. Many of my friends developed eating disorders in an attempt to be a "work weight." (This happened to two of my screenwriting friends in Hollywood, also.) It's but a different kindof life these people alive. If she knows all of that going in, then I say she should go for it. There'south also the option of costume design for movies or theater. Still competitive, but possibly easier to at to the lowest degree become entry level positions with.

    Maybe if she majored in design of some sort and minored in business she would go out herself open to having more options in the industry, and in different industries. For example, I accept a friend with a degree in interior design who works as a prepare designer for movies.

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    Actually, the program is for her to double major in manner design and business direction. She'southward very content with that because she knows that she will accept to know how manage her business organization.
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    That makes total sense ro me!
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    MIT? It is by no means the just decent university in the country: I tin can recall of several dozen universities and colleges I'd recommend at least as highly for undergrads, about of whom would benefit most from a actually expert, broad just rigorous liberal-arts education.
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    Marci~my daughter is viii and she already has a plan for wanting to become a fashion designer and live in Paris. Will this become reality? I don't know and it'due south too soon to tell. She has drawn upwards some dress designs and I am encouraging her past giving her a fashion sketch book. It sounds like your daughter has a good head on her shoulders and even if she doesn't get a task actually designing fashion, I think she will do great in whatsoever aspect that she finds herself in. Good luck to her!
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    I agree. The poor thing works so hard in her classes. She gets good grades and is taking very advanced classes but her heart is not in engineering science (which is what her dad strongly suggest). We have neat colleges in our state that she tin can easily get into. You lot are right, she shouldn't limit her choices.
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    That's corking that her dad has high hopes for her, and I don't doubt that she could do that, merely at some point (and I'g even so trying to do this myself), we take to let our kids brand their own choices (and mistakes if need exist!).
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    I have a kid who wants to exist a ballet dancer. Being a male child, his chances are a little fleck ameliorate than most aspiring dancers, but it's however a cut-pharynx globe. I feel your hurting in supporting the dreams of your children, even when the chances are then small that they'll actually make information technology "big". This is 1 of the few times where I'm glad my ex-husband has naught to practise with his kids. I don't take to have this fight with him.

    That said, I call up her plans of double majoring in mode and business are very wise. I hope she follows her dreams!

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    I'm getting ready to send my girl off in vii months to follow her dreams. Could she be making some mistakes in her decisions? It's far too soon to tell, merely I don't want to be the ane to make that determination for her.
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    I think the double major makes sense- and if information technology doesn't work out, she has something to fall back on. The sad thing is that in this economy virtually annihilation yous major in doesn't give y'all a good chance of actually getting a job. Call up of all the people starting college majoring in simple didactics at present! When I entered college I know my mom tried to get me to change my major to something else numerous times. She kept suggesting speech language pathology, which is near the only teaching field that'southward actually in high demand where I'thou from. She even asked me if I wanted to come up to her school and shadow the SLP! One time she realized I truly understood the market place I was entering and was enlightened of the realities and notwithstanding really, really wanted to do this, she backed off and was very supportive. My best friend's parents convinced her to alter her major from history education to castilian teaching (much amend job market) and although she did find a chore right out of school in our dwelling house state, she all the same regrets non doing what she really wanted to. I'd say equally long equally your daughter is aware of the realities of the chore market and is going in with her eyes open up your responsibility ends there. I had a actually adept friend in high schoolhouse who wanted to act on broadway. He did well in our loftier school musicals and such, but nosotros just idea there was absolutely no way he'd ever "make information technology" in the acting world. We tried to convince him over and over to do something else- at least enter a university program and major in drama and something else (he went to a performing arts school). I remember just not being able to believe how "naive" he was beingness about the whole situation. Well, fast forward a few years and he actually fabricated information technology! He's not a huge star or anything, but he gets enough piece of work acting in plays to actually brand a living and live in NY with no task other than acting. He's been in quite a few large name productions. I experience terrible for trying to talk him out of it all of those years- I'm surprised he's fifty-fifty still friends with us!
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    I agree. I'one thousand sure she doesn't want to disappoint her dad just it is her life and she needs to exercise what makes her happy.

    The college I went to had both a really great manner program and a great business concern/management program. One of my roommates double majored in Communications (Marketing/PR) and Fashion Merchandising. She worked for La Coste and Michael Kors later graduating before pursuing other dreams. I don't know where y'all are located or where she is looking at schools.

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    Wow, what a incredible story and how happy he must exist to know that he followed his dream. My daughter's dream is to one day open a little boutique with her creations. She doesn't seem to want to arrive large like a huge designer and she is well aware of the challenges. Of course, existence aware doesn't hateful she volition be prepared to handle them. I am ready to declare my support 100%. She fifty-fifty was recommended to enter an intership with one local designer just she couldn't be accustomed because of her young age.
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    Would you mind sharing the name of this college? I think we are going to have to start looking into colleges that will offer these options. For what I know so far, there aren't that many that offer both.
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    Please encourage her to fight for her dreams. Non enough people do.
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    Wish I could 'similar' this!
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    My father even so hasn't gotten over the fact that I went into didactics!:eek: He's a business guy and could take gotten me a job at his company for twice the salary sitting behind a desk-bound all day. I could accept done information technology to please him, but I would accept been and so unhappy. He all the same mocks the task-"how's social work going?". I'grand glad I did what I wanted to do and went where my passion led.

    She can become the practical route and never know what could have been-I uncertainty anyone can truly be happy going through life like that.

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    Fashion is a HUGE industry. I actually looked at FIT in NYC before going for my marketing degree in a 'regular college'...and much later went for my grad degree in Ed... Your daughter should follow her passion...information technology will lead her to where she is supposed to be.
  23. Jan sixteen, 2012

    I think it sounds like she has a great plan! As long every bit she is realistic, I would encourage her to pursue her dreams and always accept a back up programme :)

    This as well makes me soooo grateful for my parents. They were so supportive only also made certain I was realistic near the opportunities of finding a task didactics HS English!

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